Maxwell Anders, Charlie Gold, and Sommer Bailey discuss their dating experiences and open up about Dicks on a very uncomfortable episode of Dating and The Big D. The gang welcomes guest Asher Kane from Dallas, Texas.
Catching up on the last week's dating encounters...
Barbecue Boy: Charlie rage quit Tinder again after about four days. She had been on a few dates with "Barbecue Boy." Their first date was at Lakewood Smokehouse in Dallas, hence the moniker, and they had their second date at Toasted in Dallas. Jerk, ghosted her! Did he ghost her or did he ghost himself? However, for the sake of her big badass womanliness, she got back on Tinder, aaaaaaaaand is now talking to some weirdos. Tinder Plus was momentarily invoked because we accidentally left swiped on the Mr. Right (or Right Now) and couldn't get him back. Oh the carousel of love that are the dating apps!
D-Bag: Sommer had a date on South Side on Lamar District in Dallas with a world-class D-bag from SMU she met at a professional mixer. Dude did not even offer to buy her drink. She did ask him out, but c'mon at least offer, right? What is the norm nowadays regardless of gender identity and sexual orientation? Is it Dutch? He went on and on about his Beamer, job, money, and how he has traveled the world. Sommer graciously excused herself and ended the date. Asher commented that this guy was exhibiting Small Dick Energy.
Unicorn Boy: Max recounts the events of Halloween at work. Competing with his team, he dressed up as the Cowardly Lion from the Wizard of Oz. He noticed the cutest guy ever dressed up as a princess riding an inflated unicorn. A few days later Max runs into him at the cafe at work in line paying at the cashier. Max just blurts out, "Hey it's the cutest unicorn ever!" Too late to do anything about it, Max introduces himself to Unicorn Boy and they start chatting. Talk about getting out of your comfort zone.
This week's topic is Dicks. Whether he or she has one or not, dicks come in all shapes and sizes. How much does dick matter? Does genitalia define a man? Does a man have a flower too? Are we able to have open and candid discussions regarding penis, vagina, or anus?
Girth vs length? Bulbous head vs shielded like a baby kangaroo?
Charlie reminds Max of the This is Spinal Tap Movie Party at attended at Alamo Drafthouse in Richardson. They dressed as punks and wore pleather pants. Max is rather endowed and the pants were too tight so he had to go to the ER because of extreme pain. Ouch!
If we are uncomfortable talking about sex, STDs, and our sex organs, then when do we have those conversations? It's important that we have those conversations with our partners. Max and Ash share about their experiences with dating and sex in the gay community where topics of HIV/AIDS come up. Know your status and respect your partners
Check the CDC for more info on - How You Can Prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Dating Challenge: This episode’s dating challenge is to have an open and honest conversation with our friends about our sexuality and sexual organs.
Charlie gives a shout out to Issa Rae fr0m HBO's Insecure for her "Broken Pu*sy" rap. You are our queen!
Guest: The episode's guest is Asher Kane from Dallas. 32, he's been in Dallas for two years. He opens about the fact that he is sober and HIV+ and how he is positive. Max has admires such body positivity and self-acceptance as admirable. Ash shares about a past relationship and how he has been dating off and on as a picky dater.
Sommer and Charlie discuss the books they were given to learn about sexuality and growing up, What's Happening To Me? and Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret. Max only got to read Superfudge.
Dating Quiz: The dating quiz for this episode is Take This Test To Reveal if You’re Dating a Jerk from The Quiz. Check out the quiz yourself and let us know how you did.
Dating Book/Article Review: Sommer introduces the article of the week Enough of the Knob Gags: Penis Size is a Mental Health Issue by Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett from The Guardian.
Call to Action: Dicks are everywhere. We love them and sometime can’t get enough of them. It’s a two-edged sword. We can use our bodies for pleasure and possibly connection or we can use our bodies a tools and objects. Can we honest about our bodies with ourselves and others? Whichever you choose is up to you.
Episode Quote: “Sex is a part of nature. I got along with nature” – Marilyn Monroe
Shout Out: We give a Shout Out to South Dallas Foodie. Max has known the South Dallas Foodie for over a decade and Max was the best man at her wedding. If you want to know the ins and out of Dallas and where to dine the South Dallas Foodie is your expert. You can even catch her occasional appearances on Fox’s TMZ. Visit her on Facebook, Instagram, and at southdallasfoodie.com.
Music featured on this episode:
Reckless by Dysfunction_AL (c) copyright 2016 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. dig.ccmixter.org/files/destinazione_altrove/54482 Ft: Blue_Wave_Theory
Start Again by Alex (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. dig.ccmixter.org/files/AlexBeroza/31670 Ft: Snowflake & Subliminal
Funk It: How It Is (ft Alex & unreal_dm) by SackJo22 (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Share-Alike (3.0) license. dig.ccmixter.org/files/SackJo22/33807 Ft: Alex, unreal_dm
ccMixter Nation [remix] by Robbero (c) copyright 2015 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. dig.ccmixter.org/files/Robbero/48769