Updated: Nov 28, 2020
On episode 23 - Divorce, Max, Beau, and Brooklyn discuss dating after divorce.
Society tells us that marriage is the goal and the result of all successful relationships. We are taught that love will find a way and that love conquers all. However, for many, this is not the case. Sometimes love is just not enough. Divorce is a part of modern-day relationships. In time, the need for romantic connection and intimacy resurfaces. How do we rise to this challenge? What is dating like after surviving and recovering from a marriage that has ended in divorce?
The gang grills Max on the various dates he had since the last episode. He got uncomfortable and tried different strategies from Zaguan Latin Cafe in Dallas to Steel City Pops, making a homemade pizza together and lastly "knocking boots." Was there a love connection? Brooklyn shares the latest on continued success in couple's therapy and maintaining the best relationship he has had.
"How about we keep it simple. Why don't you wow me with your words and brain and let's plan a proper date." -Maxwell Anders
"I have to remember that I go to bed by myself, and when I wake up and look in the mirror, I only see myself." - Brooklyn Steele
Guest: Rene from Dallas is our dating guru and shares on his experience dating after divorce.
Dating Book/Article Review: "Dating After Divorce: Getting Back in the Saddle After Ending Your Marriage.” by Kristen Fuller, M.D. from Psychology Today.
Call to Action: Some see marriage as a symbol of success and happiness. It is a beautiful and beneficial institution indeed. On occasion, marriage is fraught with pain, betrayal, infidelity, and abuse. Sometimes love is not enough, and divorce is needed to end this relationship. Life is full of transition and opportunities if we are willing to reframe our situations. Can we see divorce as a time of transition and healing which can lead to self-discovery and redefinition? Can we open ourselves to new challenges, get uncomfortable, and open our hearts to loving and be loved again? Or do we remain stuck in feelings of failure and bitterness? Do we accept responsibility for our lives moving forward and become the love and change we want in our new lives? The choice is yours.
“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce," - Fly Away Home, a Novel by Jennifer Weiner
Shout Out: This episode’s shout out goes to Director, Producer, and Editor Ryan Turner. He is the director of the 2017 short film “A Date in 2025,” which earned nominations and awards in various film festivals in 2017 and 2018.
Along with “A Date in 2025,” Ryan has earned acclaim and success with his comedy music video, “I’m Not Gay” and his commercial “Baby’s First World.” Check out Ryan Turner at ryanturnerproductions.com and adatein2025.com.
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